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What Supports Creating Compassionate Trauma-Informed Cultures?

 

Compassionate trauma-informed healthcare does not emerge from policies, training sessions or good intentions alone.  It is created through the everyday actions, relationships, practices, self-compassion and cultures that shape how we meet ourselves and one another.

There are many factors that support compassionate, trauma-informed working including:

  • Compassionate leadership
  • Presence and awareness
  • Nervous system awareness and regulation
  • Self-compassion
  • Empathy
  • Somatic and embodiment practices
  • Courage and curiosity
  • Reflection and shared learning
  • Psychological safety and collaboration

 

Presence and Awareness

 

Presence and awareness are foundational in compassionate healthcare.  Compassion begins with noticing suffering and being willing to turn towards it.

When we aren’t aware of suffering, we can’t take action to try and alleviate it and when we can’t tolerate discomfort, we will either avoid it, jump into trying to fix it which may well not be wise action, or become overwhelmed by it.

This can be supported by mindfulness-based practices, which train awareness and attention — learning to notice experience moment by moment with greater clarity, steadiness, and openness.  This supports presence, listening, and the ability to respond rather than react.

Everything is relational, Compassionate healthcare is not simply about what we do, but about how we are with ourselves and others.  Presence supports us in listening deeply, understanding experiences, building trust, and responding wisely rather than automatically.

Empathy helps us understand and resonate with the experiences of others, while compassion adds the motivation and courage to respond wisely to suffering.

Professor Michael West describes the first behaviour of compassion as attending — being fully present with another person and listening with fascination.

Presence is not passive, it invites inquiry.

Compassionate Questions

Compassionate healthcare is supported by simple but powerful questions that help us remain connected to ourselves and others.  Professor Michael West often highlights the importance of asking: “How can I help you?”

There are a number of questions that support compassionate awareness, understanding and wise action, including:

  • What is needed right now?
  • What would be supportive right now?
  • How can I help you?
  • What matters most right now?

These questions shift us away from assumptions, fixing and rushing, and towards understanding, collaboration and more trauma-informed compassionate responses.

Presence alone is not enough.  Compassionate presence also requires care, curiosity, courage, humility and enough regulation to remain open to another person’s experience rather than becoming focused on our own agenda/the service agenda, assumptions or pressures.  Like compassion, presence is a lifelong practice.

 

 Nervous System Regulation

 

Nervous system awareness and regulation are essential components of compassionate trauma-informed healthcare.

When we are overwhelmed, stressed or operating beyond our capacity, it becomes more difficult to stay present, think clearly, listen deeply and respond wisely. We may become reactive, defensive, controlling, avoidant, or rush into trying to fix problems before fully understanding them.

Regulation does not mean remaining calm all of the time.  It means developing enough awareness and capacity to stay present with difficulty, respond rather than react, and reconnect when we become activated.   We need enough capacity to stay present with suffering without becoming overwhelmed by it.  We need to understand our own nervous systems and how to stay regulated enough in the face of suffering, along with the challenges of lack of time and resources that are so often present.

When we can remain regulated enough in the face of suffering and challenge, we also support others in regulating.  This process of co-regulation has ripple effects within teams, services and organisations.  Also, beyond this as people carry the compassion out into their world.  In the same way that stress and threat can spread through systems, compassion, steadiness and connection can also spread.

 

Self-Compassion

 

Compassionate healthcare requires self-compassion as well as compassion for others, it’s something that is essential.

Many healthcare professionals are highly skilled at caring for others whilst finding it difficult to extend the same understanding, care and kindness towards themselves.

Self-compassion supports awareness of our own suffering, helps us recognise our limits, and encourages us to respond wisely rather than pushing endlessly through exhaustion and distress.

Far from being self-indulgent, self-compassion supports our ability to remain present, effective and compassionate with others over time.  It is a foundation for sustainable healthcare.

Self-compassion can also be supported through gentle inquiry. In moments of stress, overwhelm or self-criticism, we might pause and ask:

  • What is needed right now?
  • What is helpful right now?
  • What can I do for myself out of kindness in this moment?

These questions are not about avoiding difficulty, they help us respond to ourselves with the same care, understanding and wisdom that we would offer to someone else who was struggling.

 

 Somatic and Embodiment

 

Compassion is more than an idea or intention, or something to be ticked off a list, it is something to embody.

Somatic and embodiment practices help us develop awareness of our internal experience, recognise signs of activation earlier, strengthen our capacity for presence, support nervous system regulation, and choose what to embody.

They can help move compassion from something we understand intellectually into something we genuinely embody and enact in our relationships, leadership and everyday life.

Embodiment also helps us recognise when our words, actions, values and organisational practices are aligned — and when they are not.

 

Compassionate Leadership

 

Compassionate leadership is essential for creating compassionate trauma-informed cultures.

Research has consistently demonstrated the importance of compassionate leadership in staff engagement, wellbeing, team performance and quality of care.

Compassionate leadership is not soft, passive or about avoiding difficult conversations.  It requires the courage to lean into suffering, challenge and uncertainty, and act with wisdom and care.

It involves creating conditions where people can flourish, removing obstacles that prevent people from doing their jobs effectively, listening deeply, valuing diverse perspectives, and supporting people to contribute their skills and ideas.

Compassionate leadership is not only the responsibility of formal leaders.  Everyone working within healthcare influences the culture around them.  We are all leaders in how we show up, relate to others and contribute to the environments we work within.

Self-compassion is an important foundation of compassionate leadership, along with awareness, presence and nervous system regulation.  Compassion needs to be practiced in all areas of life and embodied over time to become genuine compassionate leadership.

Compassionate leadership is not soft; it takes great courage to lean into the suffering and challenge, and uncertainty.  It includes advocating for the resources time and conditions people need to do their work safely and effectively.  It also includes addressing conflict and unacceptable behaviour with courage, care and clarity.  Ultimately it can help to create environments where people can flourish rather than merely survive.

 

Reflective Practice, Collaboration and Collective Wisdom

 

Compassionate trauma-informed healthcare cannot be created by one individual.  Individual presence, behaviour and compassionate action matter, and its important to recognise compassionate cultures are created collectively.

Teams need time and space to reflect, share experiences, learn together and discuss challenges openly.  This requires environments that support psychological safety, compassionate challenge and genuine collaboration.

When people feel safe enough to contribute ideas, raise concerns and learn from mistakes, organisations become more adaptive, innovative and effective.

Research has shown that teams who take regular time to reflect together are significantly more productive than those who do not.

Collective intelligence is one of the most underused resources in healthcare systems.  The solutions to some of the challenges facing healthcare already exist within the collective wisdom of the workforce.  Creating opportunities to access this wisdom is a vital part of compassionate leadership and culture change.

 

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Creating Compassionate Trauma-Informed Cultures

 

When compassion and trauma-informed principles are not embodied throughout an organisation and woven into leadership, policies, procedures and everyday practice, they risk becoming a tick-box exercise.

Culture is not only reflected in organisational documents and strategies, it’s shaped moment by moment through how we meet ourselves, how we relate to one another, how decisions are made, and how people are treated when they are struggling.

Creating compassionate trauma-informed healthcare requires commitment at every level of an organisation and the whole system.  It involves individuals, teams, leaders and organisations working together to create environments where people feel safe, valued, respected and supported.

This is not only beneficial for healthcare professionals and service users, it contributes to healthier workplaces, stronger communities and, ultimately, a more compassionate, trauma-informed society.

 

Summary

 

Compassionate trauma-informed healthcare is not a set of isolated practices, but an integrated way of being and working.  It is supported a variety of factors, including: presence, awareness, nervous system regulation, self-compassion, mindfulness-based practices,  somatic and embodiment practices, reflective practice and compassionate leadership.

When these are cultivated and woven into individual ways of being, teams and systems, they help create environments where people can meet challenge with greater steadiness, connection and wisdom.  In doing so, they support more compassionate cultures, more sustainable healthcare and better experiences for both staff and the people they serve.

You can find part-one of this blog here, which explores what compassionate trauma-informed working is and why it matters: https://unityphysio.co.uk/?p=8390&preview=true

You can find out more about my work in this area here https://unityphysio.co.uk/services/compassionate-trauma-informed-working/

 

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Understanding Compassionate Trauma-Informed Healthcare https://unityphysio.co.uk/compassionate-trauma-informed-healthcare/ Sun, 21 Jun 2026 13:59:28 +0000 https://unityphysio.co.uk/?p=8390 What is Compassionate Trauma-Informed Healthcare   Compassionate trauma-informed healthcare brings together compassionate care with trauma-informed principles.  It has compassion at the heart, which changes how individuals, teams, leaders and systems operate.  It is about creating a healthcare system that supports staff and service users, recognises that anyone can be affected by trauma, and supports more …

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What is Compassionate Trauma-Informed Healthcare

 

Compassionate trauma-informed healthcare brings together compassionate care with trauma-informed principles.  It has compassion at the heart, which changes how individuals, teams, leaders and systems operate.  It is about creating a healthcare system that supports staff and service users, recognises that anyone can be affected by trauma, and supports more sustainable healthcare.

In compassionate, trauma-informed working, compassion is not only an individual skill – it’s embodied and enacted at every level of the organisation.  This requires shared responsibility, awareness, and practice, across leadership, teams, and systems.

Compassionate trauma-informed healthcare recognises that both service users and healthcare professionals are human beings with needs, vulnerabilities, strengths and life experiences that shape how they experience healthcare.

Compassion supports us in being present with suffering, understanding people’s experiences and responding wisely.  It’s innate within us.  As relational beings, connection, belonging, and compassionate relationships are fundamental to our health, wellbeing, and collective flourishing.  Trauma-informed principles help ensure this care is delivered in ways that promote safety, trust, collaboration, choice and empowerment.

Together they create conditions where people are more likely to feel heard, respected and supported.  They help to cultivate conditions of safety, trust, collaboration and compassionate care, along with reducing the risk of retraumatisation.

 

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What is Compassion?

 

To understand this, it’s important to understand what compassion is.  Through the lens of compassion focused therapy (CFT), compassion is the recognition of suffering and the desire or motivation to try and alleviate or prevent it.

In CFT compassion has three core qualities: a caring commitment to engage with suffering and try and alleviate it, the courage to turn towards difficulty, and wisdom which involves recognising the complexities of being human, understanding the root causes of suffering, and responding in ways that are wise and with the intention of being helpful.

CFT also describes a number of attributes and skills that support compassion.  Attributes include sensitivity to suffering, distress tolerance, and care for wellbeing.  Skills include compassionate attention and compassionate behaviour.  Other qualities often associated with compassion include patience, kindness, humility, non-judgement and curiosity.

Compassion can flow in three directions: towards others, from others, and towards ourselves (from ourselves).  Many people find self-compassion the most difficult of these.  Compassion directed towards ourselves is essential in healthcare, and in life more generally.   Without self-compassion, it becomes harder to sustain compassionate attention, behaviour and care over time.

Compassion is both a motivation and an experience.  We can feel compassion, cultivate it intentionally, and strengthen the qualities and skills that support it.  Through practice and embodiment, compassion becomes more than something we do occasionally — it becomes a way of being that influences how we relate to ourselves, others and the wider world.

Compassion is commonly misunderstood as soft and fluffy.  Whilst compassion can have a gentle and nurturing quality, it also requires great courage.  It supports us in leaning into suffering, conflict, challenge and difficulty, rather than turning away from them or rushing to try and ‘fix’ them.  This includes navigating difficult behaviour and conversations.

 

Compassion in Healthcare

 

Compassion in healthcare is more than being kind.  It is reflected in how we listen, relate, communicate and respond to suffering, and how compassion is embodied within teams, organisations and systems.

Compassionate care is a whole person approach to care and involves a variety of aspects like curiosity, non-judgmental listening, presence and being with, awareness of ourselves and others, awareness of what is happening relationally, effective communication clarity, and respect for individual experiences and values.

I like a term that Professor Michael West uses around presence and being with the other person and their experience, which is attending.  This refers to presence and deep listening and Michael says listening with fascination.

Before trying to help, we first need to attend and be with the person and their challenges or suffering, listening deeply with curiosity and a genuine desire to understand.  We need to acknowledge and validate what is present before moving towards wise action.

 

Unity Physiotherapy & Wellbeing’s core values

 

What Does Being Trauma-Informed Mean?

 

Trauma-informed working is not the same as trauma-sensitive or trauma aware, all of these matter.  Trauma-informed working recognises the profound and wide-reaching impact of trauma on individual lives and collectively.   There needs to be an understanding of trauma, the many ways it can present, and the need to prevent retraumatisation or further trauma.  There are 6 key principles of trauma-informed practice:

  • Safety
  • Trustworthiness and Transparency
  • Choice
  • Collaboration
  • Empowerment
  • Cultural, Historical and Gender Awareness

You can read more about Trauma-Informed Practice here: https://unityphysio.co.uk/services/trauma-informed-practice/

Trauma-informed principles are naturally supported when compassion is embodied at individual, team and organisational levels.  Safety, trust, collaboration, empowerment and choice are not separate from compassion; they are expressions of compassion in practice.

 

Why Does it Matter? 

 

We have a crisis in healthcare, there are many systemic issues including a lack of resources, levels of stress and burnout are high, waiting lists are long, we need to address the inequity in access to healthcare, improve quality of care and outcomes, and better meet the core human needs of staff.  There are some pockets of good practice, within individual practice, teams, and whole organisations and trusts.  This needs to be more the norm than the exception.

Compassionate healthcare has been shown to help decrease the risk of burnout, improve team working, improve job satisfaction, improve service user engagement and outcomes.  It’s also important for sustainability.  Compassionate trauma-informed healthcare recognises that sustainable wellbeing requires attention to both individuals and the systems in which they work.  It values diversity, supports inclusion, and enables organisations to benefit from the collective wisdom, experience and perspectives of their teams.

“Compassion is the single most important intervention we have in healthcare” Professor Michael West

The potential benefits for staff include:
  • Supports nervous system regulation, trust and a sense of belonging
  • Enhances therapeutic relationship and professional relationships
  • Improves wellbeing including mental health and overall wellbeing
  • Reduces work-related stress
  • Lowers the risk of burnout and vicarious trauma
  • Increases work satisfaction

Burnout is often framed as an individual problem requiring individual solutions.  While personal wellbeing practices can help, they cannot compensate for systems that repeatedly fail to meet core human needs.  It is not a resilience issue of individuals, it’s largely a systemic issue.

When people have little autonomy, feel disconnected from others, experience chronic overload, lack resources, or feel unable to influence change, stress and burnout rise.   Part of this is core human needs not being met, this increases threat system activation.

It’s also wider than this — it’s a societal issue too.  We have a society that encourages over doing, striving, not resting, and feeling like nothings enough.

It is essential that staff feel understood, valued, trusted, and cared about.  Working with a compassionate culture supports this and creating well structured teams.

There are also a number of potential benefits for the organisation, including:
  • Improved effectiveness and sustainability
  • Reduced sickness absence and staff turnover
  • Supports healthy boundaries and sustainable workloads
  • Stronger team dynamics, communication, and collaboration
  • Enhances service user experiences and outcomes
It also has a number of potential benefits for service users including:
  • Supports nervous system regulation
  • Decreases risk of re-traumatisation
  • Improves engagement with services
  • Enhances satisfaction and care outcomes
  • Promotes healing and recovery

When healthcare is not compassionate and trauma-informed, people can leave encounters feeling dismissed, invalidated or blamed. Some avoid seeking support in the future. Others disengage from treatment or lose trust in healthcare services altogether.

Creating compassionate, trauma-informed healthcare is about more than improving individual interactions.  It helps create cultures where staff can flourish, service users feel heard and supported, and compassion ripples out into families, communities and wider society.

 

Summary

 

Compassionate trauma-informed healthcare is not only about reducing harm and improving service user outcomes.  It’s about creating conditions where people, teams and organisations can work, heal and thrive sustainably over time.

Creating compassionate, trauma-informed healthcare is about more than improving individual interactions.  It helps create cultures where staff can flourish, service users feel respected and valued, and compassion ripples out into families, communities and wider society.

When people feel heard, understood and supported, they are more likely to engage with care, communicate openly, and participate in decision-making.  This can contribute to improved experiences, more effective care and better outcomes.

Part two of this blog explores what can support the cultivation of compassionate trauma-informed healthcare, including compassionate leadership, nervous system awareness and regulation, self-compassion, embodiment, reflective practice and collective wisdom.

You can read part two here: https://unityphysio.co.uk/?p=8420&preview=true

You can find out more about my work in this area here: https://unityphysio.co.uk/services/compassionate-trauma-informed-working/

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The Window of Tolerance and Chronic Illness https://unityphysio.co.uk/the-window-of-tolerance-and-chronic-illness/ Fri, 05 Sep 2025 09:59:29 +0000 https://unityphysio.co.uk/?p=7084 What is The Window of Tolerance   The Window of Tolerance is a model of nervous system regulation developed by Dr. Dan Siegel.  It describes the optimal zone of arousal – the state where our physiology is balanced, we feel settled enough to connect with others, we can explore, learn and grow.  Inside the window …

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What is The Window of Tolerance

 

The Window of Tolerance is a model of nervous system regulation developed by Dr. Dan Siegel.  It describes the optimal zone of arousal – the state where our physiology is balanced, we feel settled enough to connect with others, we can explore, learn and grow.  Inside the window emotions and challenges are tolerable, and we can respond rather than react – we can cope with life stressors.

Either side of the window are two dysregulated states — hyperarousal and hypoarousal.

  • Hyperarousal is the fight or flight response, driven by the sympathetic nervous system.  Here we may feel, for example, anxious or agitated, or on high alert – our physiology is dialled up
  • Hypoarousal happens when something is too much for too long, it’s the parasympathetic nervous system without the “vagal brake”, and we lack the enough mobilisation of the sympathetic nervous system that we need to function effectively day to day (this is not the same as the fight or flight response which of course we need too!).

Each of the three zones is associated with different emotions, thoughts, feelings, behaviours and physiology.  The window isn’t only about our emotions, it’s about the body and behaviour too – it’s about the whole person and being able to function in a balanced, or efficient, way aS much as possible.

The aim isn’t to stay in our window all of the time – that’s not realistic.  Instead, we can over time learn to spend more time there, gently expand the window and recognise its edges (a place of growth).  These edges are sometimes called our stretch zone: where we are challenged but not overwhelmed.  I’ve created an infographic below which illustrates these states.

 

(You’re welcome to use & share this infographic – please keep the copyright & logo visible so the work is credited)

What is Nervous System Regulation

 

Nervous system regulation is a term used to refer to the state of the autonomic nervous system (ANS).  The ANS controls bodily functions like heart rate, breathing, digestion and our stress responses, and of these, the breath is unique because can also influence it consciously.

I often describe efficient nervous system regulation as having the ability to move flexibly between different states, in response to life’s demands and stressors.  It means the level of arousal is matched to what’s needed in the moment – and being able to return to a more regulated state with some degree of ease when dysregulation happens.  This supports a sense of safeness, connection, optimal functioning, growth, and healing.  A regulated state is where we and learn and grow, and feel grounded, settled/safe, able to connect with others, restore, recover and heal.

It’s important to remember when we talk about nervous system regulation, it’s broader than the ANS alone – everything in the body is deeply interconnected.  You can read more about nervous system regulation in my blog: https://unityphysio.co.uk/nervous-system-regulation-a-path-home-to-your-body/

 

Window of Tolerance and Chronic Illness

 

What Happens to The Window

 

When living with chronic illness, and struggling with symptoms, the window shrinks.  Other things shrink our window too including trauma, chronic stress, not taking care of ourselves and over working.

With a narrower window we are more easily moved into survival responses by everyday stressors — dysregulating too quickly, too often, or too much.  This isn’t a sign of weakness or doing anything wrong; these are survival strategies and there is wisdom here if we listen.  We know people struggling with chronic illness easily move out of the window in chronic illness, and some people get stuck swinging between hyperarousal and hyperarousal.

“There’s wisdom in survival strategies if we listen”

 

Fear is one of the most common triggers for dysregulation and increasing the dysregulation, for example: fear of flare-ups, of not getting better, of being negatively judged, or fear about an activity.  Sometimes fear shows up as hyperarousal (worry, tension, hypervigilance) and if it becomes too much, it can tip us into hypoarousal (numbness, disconnection, withdrawal, collapse).

 

“Fear often pulls us out of our window, compassionate awareness helps us return”

 

The Feedback Loop: Symptoms & Threat Responses

 

When we are dysregulated the symptom dial often turns up – which can in turn dysregulate us further.  For example, worrying about doing an activity because of the expected impact can pull us outside of our window before we even begin.  Then during the activity, hypervigilance and tension increase pain, fatigue and other symptoms.  Afterwards, self-criticism or frustration may arise, further dysregulating systems and turning the symptom dial up more.

Different parts of us can take the wheel in these moments.  In hyperarousal, a part might push us to keep going – until symptoms flare more (boom-bust pattern).  Then the critical part of us may jump in, getting hooked into critical thought loops can push us into hypoarousal, where another part that may want to hide away and give up gets into the driving seat.  Each part is trying to protect us, even if it’s using a strategy that is causing distress.

Learning to listen with compassion to these different parts helps us understand their wisdom and gradually expand our window – with awareness and practice we can understand the wisdom here, meet what’s needed and can gently expand our window over time.  Also, the more time that we spend in the window, the easier it is to access our compassionate self, which supports healing and making helpful changes.

(You’re welcome to use & share this infographic – please keep the copyright and logo visible so the work is credited)

The angry self, anxious self, and sad self are recognised as common parts in Compassion Focused Therapy that increase threat system activation.  Recognising them with awareness and compassion helps us return to balance.

Returning to Regulation

 

To return to regulation we first need to notice:

  • What’s present and what the nervous system state is (hyperarousal, hypoarousal or in our window)
  • The signs that we are moving beyond the edge of our window into dysregulation.

From there, we can explore practices that either downregulate hyperarousal or upregulate hypoarousal to move us back into or more towards our window.  It’s important to remember: just because something is described as calming or energising doesn’t mean it will have that affect for you – notice how you feel before and after and let your body teach you what is supportive for you and in what context.

There are some suggested practices for hyperarousal and hypoarousal below:

Practices for Hyperarousal
  • Compassionate awareness of what’s present
  • Somatic tracking (either with a sense of safety noticing and tracking an unpleasant sensation, or leaning into a pleasant of neutral sensation)
  • Breath practices, for example diaphragmatic soft slow nose breathing (normal breathing), Buteyko recovery breathing, extended exhale, coherent breathing, bee breath
  • Grounding practices, for example the 5-4-3-2-1 practice, or noticing your feet on the floor and gently swaying if gentle movement feels accessible
  • Connection with others
  • Time in nature in a way that feels soothing or settling
  • Soothing self-touch
  • Soothing music or nature sounds
  • Rhythmic movement, for example somatic shaking, walking, dancing, jogging, or swimming.  Other movement for example stretching
  • Humming
  • Sensory stimulation, for example a soothing essential oil, listening to soothing music or nature sounds, touching objects with a soothing texture or temperature, looking around and naming objects
  • Self compassion practices
  • Let be, let go let in (I’ve written more about this here: https://unityphysio.co.uk/the-mindful-compassion-based-5-steps-stress-awareness-management-model
Practices for Hypoarousal
  • Mindfulness and somatic techniques, for example tapping, squeezing, or self-massage
  • Energising movement, for example walking, stretching, jumping, somatic shaking, swimming, anything to energise the body that feels accessible and within tolerance levels
  • Sensory stimulation, for example the smell of coffee, an essential oil, or another strong scent, touching objects with different textures or temperatures, looking around and naming objects, uplifting sounds, eating something salty/cold/crunchy, drinking a cold drink with a straw
  • Cold shower or splashing cold water on face
  • Stimulating breath practices
  • Time in nature, gently connecting with energising elements
  • Walking barefoot on a safe surface (grass is one option)
  • Grounding practices. for example the 5-4-3-2-1 practice
  • Self-compassion practices

Yoga and physiotherapy

Many practices, like breathwork, yoga, mindfulness and compassion practices, as well as time in nature, support both states in different ways depending on the person and how they are approached and engaged with.  They can upregulate or downregulate and bring more balance depending on different factors and the individual.  It’s really an exploration and noticing how your body responds to different practices in different states and contexts.  Sometimes downregulating in hyperarousal needs more up-regulation to mobilise the energy and other times starting to downregulate with slower movements is possible as the starting point, for example needing a run or brisk walk in hyperarousal before a slow walking or sitting outdoors is accessible.  Doing a somatic check in before and after is helpful – see if you feel you’ve moved more towards or away from your window.

 

Expanding the Window

 

We can expand our window by understanding and noticing the early signs from our body of being at the edge of our window and gently working here in a way that feels safe enough.  I often describe it as having one foot (or even a toe) outside the window and the other in regulation.  This supports nudging the window in a way that feels possible.

“Expanding the window isn’t about staying regulated all the time – it’s about awareness and finding enough safety at the edges, and returning from dysregulation with more ease”

 

Some ways I support people in expanding their window includes:

  • Awareness of the edge of the window
  • Somatic and embodiment practices (e.g. somatic tracking, somatic check-in)
  • Meditationand mindfulness-based practices
  • Compassion practices
  • Mindful language and reframing
  • Downregulation practices to support regulation after nudging hyperarousal
  • Learning to trust the body
  • Holding outcomes lightly
  • Supporting connection with others
  • Lifestyle changes, such as pacing of activities, including some restorative rest each day, good quality sleep and a healthy balanced diet.

 

In Summary

 

There are many things that support regulation — awareness, compassion, and regular practice are key. Expanding the window also takes gentleness, patience and time: finding what’s best for you, listening to your body’s signals, and trusting the wisdom within.  Remember, the aim isn’t to stay in the window all of the time – over time, we want to be able to return to it with greater ease, and to gently expand it.

 

 

You might like to reflect on:

  • What are the signs of being in each of the three zones of the Window of Tolerance?
  • What are the signs of being at the edge of your window, and what helps you to keep a foot in regulation?
  • What supports you in returning to your window from hyperarousal or hypoarousal?
  • What helps you expand your window over time?

 

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Somatic Tracking: A Mindful Body-Based Practice for Nurturing Safety https://unityphysio.co.uk/mindful-somatic-tracking/ Wed, 25 Jun 2025 14:13:35 +0000 https://unityphysio.co.uk/?p=6959 What is Somatic Tracking?   Somatic tracking is a mindfulness-based practice.  It involves gently bringing attention to physical sensations with a sense of safety, curiosity, and without judgement or expectation of a particular outcome. It draws on principles from a mindfulness, somatic experiencing, interoception neuroplasticity research and pain neuroscience education.  The term “somatic tracking” was …

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What is Somatic Tracking?

 

Somatic tracking is a mindfulness-based practice.  It involves gently bringing attention to physical sensations with a sense of safety, curiosity, and without judgement or expectation of a particular outcome.

It draws on principles from a mindfulness, somatic experiencing, interoception neuroplasticity research and pain neuroscience education.  The term “somatic tracking” was coined by Alan Gordon, who developed Pain Reprocessing Therapy as a way to change how the brain interprets signals from the body.  This approach supports nervous system regulation buy modulating the threat system and inviting a felt sense of safety.

 

How Somatic Tracking Helps

 

Somatic tracking helps build safety in the body.  It supports retraining the nervous system– not by trying to “fix” or change sensations, instead by changing how we relate to them.   Rather than controlling or eliminating what we feel, the practice encourages a gentle, curious, compassionate relationship with our experience.

It can also be used with emotions and thoughts by focusing on the physical sensations associated with them, and meeting those sensations with the same curious, gentle focus.

This practice can support:

  • Inner awareness
  • Emotional regulation
  • Pain & symptom management
  • Retraining the nervous system
  • Changes in how symptoms are experienced

Sometimes it may even contribute to the resolution of symptoms – though resolution is not the goal of the practice.  The core aim is to shift how we relate to sensations with greater curiosity, non-judgement, gentleness, and safety.  By observing without trying to fix or control, we open space for the nervous system to recalibrate.  The body can begin to be experienced as a source of wisdom, rather than a problem to solve.

 

My Approach to Somatic Tracking

 

My approach grew from my own personal practices, and my training in:

  • Trauma-informed practice
  • Compassion-based practices
  • Mindfulness and meditation
  • Yoga
  • Somatics and embodiment

I was using these elements long before I encountered Alan Gordon’s work.  I didn’t call it “somatic tracking” at the time, but his framework helped me shape and name one of my practices more intentionally.

Key Elements of Somatic Tracking

 

I see the core elements of somatic tracking as being:

  • Intention to be curious
  • Outcome independence (holding outcomes lightly)
  • Letting go of having an agenda – there is no goal, and the aim is not to “get rid of” a particular sensation
  • Mindfulness – observing gently with curiosity.  The way you might if watching a sunset, or clouds in the sky
  • Noticing how sensations naturally change
  • Cultivating a felt sense of safety
  • Acceptance of what’s present, just as it is, in this moment

 

 

How I Guide Somatic Tracking: Practice Steps

 

1. Settle and Ground


Find a quiet space and settle into a comfortable position.

Notice your feet on the floor and the parts of your body that are supported by the ground or chair.   As you notice this support, you may notice a sense of being supported or held – and what this feels like in your body.

Set an intention to be compassionate and curious throughout the practice.  Take a few breaths and check in with how you’re feeling overall — noticing sensations, breath, energy levels, thoughts and emotions, and how this all shows up in your body.

2. Bring Your Attention to the Body


Gently notice a sensation of discomfort, tension, or pain that you’d like to focus on.  This could be tightness, tingling, throbbing, or anything else.

You can also do this whole practice with neutral or pleasant sensations.  This can be the place to start if it’s too activating to focus on discomfort/pain to begin with.

If you’re working with discomfort/pain, keep the intensity around 3–4 out of 10 (no more than 5).  Stronger sensations can make it harder to slow down, and stay present with curiosity.

3. Observe with Curiosity


Let your attention rest on the sensation, without trying to change it.

You might notice:

  • Where it is
  • It’s size or shape
  • It’s temperature or texture
  • Any other qualities
  • If it shifts or stays the same
4. Notice Your Responses


If thoughts or emotions arise acknowledge them gently.

You might label them (“thinking,” “worry,” “criticism”) and return to the sensation.  Alternatively, if it feels helpful, you can also bring your attention to the physical sensations associated with the emotion or thought, using the same compassionate, curious awareness.

5. Stay Connected to a Sense of Safety


Consciously connect with a felt sense of safety, messages of safety, or a sense of “okayness,” if needed.  This supports paying attention from a place of feeling settled/safe.  One option is you might remind yourself:

“This is simply a sensation. It’s safe to feel.”

Let your attention be soft and compassionate, not effortful.

6. Close with a Somatic Check-in & Safety


Notice how you feel now compared to when you began.

If it feels right, gently shift your attention to a neutral or pleasant sensation — such as the rhythm of your breath, the warmth on your hands resting on your body, or a sense of ease in the body.

Observing this with the same soft, curious awareness.  This can help reinforce a felt sense of safety, ease, settling, and integration.

Take a few moments to move gently if needed.

7. Journal if helpful


Write down any reflections, or insights if that feels supportive.  This can deepen awareness and integration.

 

Interested in Exploring Somatic Tracking More?

 

I offer a guided Compassionate Somatic Tracking recording for the people I work with one-to-one, and in relevant group workshops.  You’re welcome to reach out if you’d like to explore this practice more deeply.

 

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Nervous System Regulation: A Gentle Path to Coming Home to Your Body https://unityphysio.co.uk/nervous-system-regulation-a-path-home-to-your-body/ Sat, 24 May 2025 13:39:18 +0000 https://unityphysio.co.uk/?p=6313 Introduction to This Nervous System Regulation Blog   This blog offers a compassionate trauma-informed introduction to nervous system regulation – what it is, why it matters, and how trauma and chronic stress can impact it.  We explore protective responses like fight, flight, freeze, and fawn, and share trauma-informed nervous system regulation frameworks such as Polyvagal …

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Introduction to This Nervous System Regulation Blog

 

This blog offers a compassionate trauma-informed introduction to nervous system regulation – what it is, why it matters, and how trauma and chronic stress can impact it.  We explore protective responses like fight, flight, freeze, and fawn, and share trauma-informed nervous system regulation frameworks such as Polyvagal Theory and the Window of Tolerance.  You’ll also be introduced to my own Compassionate Nervous System Regulation Framework, Polyvagal Theory infographics, and further resources that can support the journey back to balance, safety, and connection.

 

What Is Nervous System Regulation?

 

Nervous system regulation often refers to the state and balance of the autonomic nervous system (ANS).  This system controls automatic bodily functions like heart rate, breathing, digestion, and our stress responses.  Of these, breath is unique, as we can also influence it consciously.

The ANS is a network of nerves that extend throughout the body, with neurons originating in both the brain and spinal cord.  Two key brain regions involved in its function are the hypothalamus and the brainstem.  The ANS has two main branches: the sympathetic nervous system (SNS), which activates the fight-or-flight response, and the parasympathetic nervous system (PNS), which supports rest, digestion and restoration.

There’s also a third division: the enteric nervous system (ENS).  While it’s technically part of the ANS, it can also function independently and is often referred to as our “second brain.”  It governs digestion and communicates with the rest of the ANS, especially via the vagus nerve – the main part of the PNS, making up about 75% of it’s nerve fibres.  Like the rest of the nervous system, the ANS communicates through a complex network of electrical signals and chemical messengers.

The ANS is a functional division of the peripheral nervous system, which connects to the central nervous system (the brain and spinal cord).   When we talk about nervous system regulation, it’s broader than the ANS alone – everything in the body is deeply interconnected.

It’s important to understand: it’s normal to move in and out of regulation throughout the day.  No one lives in a perfectly regulated state all the time, and that’s not the goal.   Life includes challenges, and our nervous system is designed to respond.  Sometimes it may over-respond, but that’s still it doing its job based on previous experiences.  With time and support, the system can learn when we are safe, helping the threat response settle more easily, when the environment is actually safe.  The aim isn’t to avoid dysregulation, but to notice when it happens and gently support ourselves in returning to balance, again and again.  This helps build nervous system efficiency, capacity, and resilience.

Understanding our nervous system, gently coming home to a regulated place, and befriending the body can support many things including healing & thriving.

My Working Definition of Nervous System Regulation

 

When I talk about nervous system regulation, I’m not referring to being calm all of the time or never getting dysregulated – this is normal and part of being human (though when we are dsyregulated too often/too much, and struggle to return to regulation, is when it’s problematic).  Regulation isn’t a fixed state – it’s a dynamic process.

To me, helpful nervous system regulation means having the ability to move flexibly between different states, in response to life’s demands and stressors. It’s about matching the level of arousal to what’s needed in the moment – and being able to return to a more regulated state with some degree of ease when dysregulation happens.  This supports a sense of safeness, connection, optimal functioning, growth, and healing.

 

Understanding Dysregulation: The 5 F’s

 

When we experience threat/stress in general, chronic stress or trauma our nervous system shifts into protective states that help us survive.   These protective states are referred in different ways, one is the 5 F’s:

  • Fight – activation of the SNS (mobilised)
  • Flight – activation of the SNS (mobilised)
  • Freeze –blends SNS activation (mobilised) with the PNS (immobilised), initially this is state is SNS driven – we are mobilised with physiological changes that are needed to flee or fight e.g. an increased heart rate and muscle tension.  It’s a brief pause whilst the options to get to safety are assessed automatically and quickly, if there is no escape we begin to shift into a state of dysregulated immobility (flop).  Freeze can be understood as part of a spectrum – with a more activated freeze at one end and flop (shutdown) at the other
  • Flop – this is a shutdown state, it is the body’s last resort for protection when there is perceived to be no escape
  • Fawn – this is also referred to as appeasing, the protection response is to please and pacify the threat for safety.  It’s a complex blended state of fight/flight and freeze

At its core, nervous system regulation is about returning to a place of balanced physiology and a sense of safeness after being in one of the dysregulated states.  It’s important for us all to be able to re-regulate quickly and efficiently, with some level of ease.  This can be challenging for people who have experienced chronic stress or trauma, and/or are struggling with chronic health conditions such as ME/CFS, PoTS, fibromyalgia, or Long Covid – dysregulating more easily, taking longer to return to regulation and getting stuck in dysregualtion, over time this can be changed.

 

Why Regulation Matters

 

The good news is that your body knows how to come back to regulation – it knows the way home.  Sometimes, it simply needs compassionate, trauma-informed support, this is part of my role in my work – to walk alongside people in the journey to remembering the innate state of regulation and connection.

Nervous system regulation is a foundational aspect of how we feel, think, move, and relate to others.  For example, when we are in a fight or flight state (SNS) our experience may include anxiety, restlessness, difficult concentrating and a racing mind, we may be impatient, there may be insomnia, stillness may be difficult and movements are likely to be quick.  When your nervous system is dysregulated, it can affect everything, including:

  • Sleep and rest
  • Pain and fatigue management
  • Emotional resilience
  • Concentration and memory
  • Your ability to connect with others

Nervous system dysregulation is not a sign of weakness—these responses are wise protective responses, however, when they persist beyond the original threat, they affect our health and wellbeing and limit our ability to thrive – we can move from surviving to thriving.

 

What Regulation Isn’t

 

Nervous system regulation isn’t about pushing through, ignoring or fixing symptoms. It’s about learning to:

  • Feel safer in your body
  • Gently restoring balance
  • Expanding capacity to be present and grounded even when life is challenging

Various things support nervous system regulation including understanding it, along with  trauma-informed, compassionate, and somatic approaches – to support shifting out of survival mode and into a state where healing, connection, and thriving become possible.

We are social beings, nervous system regulation enables us to co-regulate—to be present, steady and attuned with others, both in our work and with the children and loved ones in our lives.   It’s especially important with children as initially they can’t regulate themselves initially and then they learn to self-regulate from co-regulation.

 

The Nervous System Regulation Tools and Models I Use

 

The tools I use are grounded in compassionate trauma-informed care, compassion and mindfulness-based practices, somatic and embodiment practices, and clear frameworks that help to understand and support the nervous system with compassion and clarity in sustainable ways.  The main frameworks I use are:

 

Window of Tolerance

 

This was developed by Dr. Dan Siegel, this model describes the optimal nervous system state (the Window of Tolerance) which is sometimes referred to as the optimal zone of arousal, where we are settled/safe, alert and engaged, and the two dysregulated states either side of it (hyperarousal and hypoarousal).  Hyperarousal is the fight or flight response and hypoarousal is dorsal vagal in Polyvagal Theory – the parasympatehtic nervous system without the vagal brake and without the mobilisation of the SNS that we need to function day to day (this is not the same as the fight or flight responses of the SNS, which of course we also need!).  The aim isn’t to be within our window all of the time, instead to know how to stay there as much as possible and keep gently expanding the window over time.  The edges of the optimal zone are our stretch zone, here we can learn and grow.

There is a Window of Tolerance infographic I created below and a few links to more information on this model.

 

A helpful short video about the Window of Tolerance by Lewis Psychology https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=TNVlppGz0zM

A helpful Window of Tolerance blog by Dr Sarah Davies https://www.drsarahdavies.com/post/what-is-window-of-tolerance-emotional-regulation-model-explained

 

Polyvagal Theory

 

Developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, this theory explains how the autonomic nervous system moves between:

  • 🟢 Ventral vagal (safety, connection & social engagement)
  • 🔴 Sympathetic (fight/flight, mobilisation)
  • 🔵 Dorsal vagal (shutdown, immobilisation)

Understanding and mapping these states helps us better understand our nervous system and gently support return to regulation.  The three main states are shown in the first infographic below and the two blended ventral vagal ones are shown in the second infographic (please feel free to share these infographics, kindly ensure the credit is visible).

 

A helpful blog about what Polyvagal theory is by the Polyvagal Theory institute https://www.polyvagalinstitute.org/whatispolyvagaltheory

A useful video on Polyvagal Theory by Lewis Psychology https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=SlhFrBoEnxU

 

The Three Circles Model (The Three Emotional Systems Model)

 

This is part of Compassion Focused Therapy and was developed by Professor Paul Gilbert.  The three emotional systems in this model are:

    • 🔴 Threat (protection and safety seeking system, activating/inhibiting)
    • 🔵 Drive (incentive/resourced focused system, pursuing and achieving, activating)
    • 🟢 Soothing (connection, safeness & care, non-wanting/affiliative)

No one of these systems is good or bad, we need them all, the aim is for them to be in balance.  Many people I work with have overactive threat systems and underactive soothing systems, which is a very common pattern partly due to the way our society is in general.  One of the ways I use this model is to support people in growing the green (the soothing system) with practices and strategies that feel safe, nourishing and sustainable.

 

Trauma-Sensitive Mindfulness (TSM)

 

TSM was developed by David Treleaven, and I have completed his Advanced Trauma-Sensitive Practitioner training.   It’s grounded in the 4R’s of trauma informed practice:

  • Realising the widespread impact of trauma
  • Recognising the signs and symptoms of trauma
  • Responding with informed, supportive practices
  • Resisting (or avoiding) Retraumatisation

You can read more about the 4 R’s on my Trauma Informed Practice page: https://unityphysio.co.uk/services/trauma-informed-practice/

Mindfulness can be a powerful tool for nervous system regulation—when it’s offered safely. I use mindfulness in a trauma-sensitive way: the practices are choice-based, gentle, and paced to meet each person’s needs.  Regulation, choice, and empowerment are central to this approach.

 

My Framework: A Compassionate Path to Regulation

 

In both my workshops and 1:1 sessions, I use a visual framework that I developed to support regulation through compassionate awareness and curiosity.  It’s non-linear – each element is interconnected, and many experiences may sit in more than one circle at a time.

The process usually begins with noticing your internal state through compassionate awareness with a gentle curiosity.  From there, you might explore settling, grounding, letting go, or receiving what feels nurturing and supportive.  Each part of the framework reinforces the others, helping you reconnect with safety, presence, compassion and self-trust at your own pace.  Over time, this helps build your capacity for regulation, connection, and thriving.

 

There’s no one right way to move through this—it’s a path of compassionate awareness and curiosity that you can return to again and again.

 

Summary

 

Nervous system regulation is a vital, ongoing process of gently returning balance for us all, and is especially important with chronic health conditions, or healing from chronic stress or trauma.  It isn’t about fixing ourselves (we are all already whole)—it’s about gently understanding our bodies, restoring balance, and reconnecting with a felt sense of safety and compassion towards ourselves, others, and the world around us.

Understanding protective responses and using compassionate, trauma-informed frameworks, supports us in reconnecting with safety, regulating and building nervous system capacity, and moving from surviving towards thriving.  This journey is unique for each of us, and it’s important that it’s grounded in curiosity, patience, compassion and kindness toward ourselves and others.

 

Would You Like to Explore More?

 

If you would like to explore nervous system regulation more take a look at:

Nervous System Regulation https://unityphysio.co.uk/services/nervous-system-regulation/

You can also book a free 15 minute discovery call to see if this work feels like a good fit for you 1:1, alternatively you are invited to take a look at my 4-week nervous system regulation workshop series on:

The Awakening The Body’s Wisdom: A Somatic Workshop Series https://unityphysio.co.uk/services/awakening-the-bodys-wisdom-somatic-workshops/

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The Mindful Compassion Based 5 Steps Stress Awareness & Management Model https://unityphysio.co.uk/the-mindful-compassion-based-5-steps-stress-awareness-management-model/ Thu, 17 Apr 2025 11:51:57 +0000 https://unityphysio.co.uk/?p=5405 In this blog I’m going to share a little about the mindful compassion based 5 steps stress awareness and management model I’ve developed.  First, let’s take a quick look at a few points around stress. Stress often gets a bad press, which is because it negatively affects our health and wellbeing when it’s certain types …

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In this blog I’m going to share a little about the mindful compassion based 5 steps stress awareness and management model I’ve developed.  First, let’s take a quick look at a few points around stress.

Stress often gets a bad press, which is because it negatively affects our health and wellbeing when it’s certain types of stress, prolonged and repetitive.   Stress is part of our daily life in many ways and some of it we need for adapting including the stress from exercise.  Chronic, or ongoing stress, also impacts chronic health conditions, it amplifies pain, fatigue, gut issues, anxiety and other symptoms.

Many things contribute to stress, including health inequalities, which I’m not going to go into in this blog.  There is also often a negative perception of stress and a stigma associated with it which isn’t needed or helpful.  I’m not going to go into this because it would be a whole other blog, however it’s important to mention that being stressed isn’t a weakness and recognising it and taking action is a strength.

We cannot change stress if we aren’t aware of feeling stressed, or we don’t notice when stress is increasing and/or are not aware of the factors that we can influence.  The rest of this blog will focus on my compassionate mindful 5 steps stress awareness and management model which can support stress awareness and management, and optimising health & wellbeing, alongside lifestyle factors, including: exercise/movement, diet, sleep, time outside, and connecting with others and nature.

 

The 5 steps stress awareness & management model

 

1. Slow down & pause

2. Awareness – Notice what’s present in the body (somatic check-in) with compassion & curiosity

3. Let Be –  allow what’s present as it is without judgement as best you can, noting how things ebb & flow

4. Let go – let go of what does not serve

5 Let in – choose what’s helpful, what you would like to invite more of.  Connect to what’s nurturing & supportive, and focus on this.

 

 

Using this model we start by slowing down and pausing, perhaps noticing the feet on the floor and the position of the body (eg sitting or standing).  It can also be helpful to connect to an intention to notice how we are and what’s present with a compassion and curiosity.

Step 2 is noticing what’s present in the body (a somatic check-in), this includes how the external environment is impacting our physiology, for example the nervous system state.  Doing a somatic check in creates an embodied awareness of what’s present.   A somatic check-in can include noticing what sensations are present where, what the breath is like, what energy levels are like, what thoughts & feelings are present and how they show up in the body.

Step 3 is letting what’s present be, allowing it to be as it is as best you can with compassion and curiosity, and also noticing how things ebb and flow.   Acceptance of what is present is part of this, there are many misconceptions about acceptance, it doesn’t mean liking or wanting something, nor does it mean something won’t change, and it’s not a one off thing (it’s an ongoing relational process).  Alongside allowing and accepting we can also notice how what we are paying attention to changes moment by moment, everything’s always changing.   To be with what’s present and allow it we need to have a wide enough window of tolerance, this could be seen as nervous system capacity to maintain some regulation with the impact of stressors, this is something that we can expand over time.  We also need to know what helps us keep a foot or at least a toe in some regulation whilst we are being with what’s present when it includes suffering or things that are challenging.  If our window of tolerance is narrow and we don’t know what anchors us in regulation, what supports us to stay settled and grounded enough (regulated enough) we will become too dysregulated to be with what’s present, mixed with previous experiences, and can become overwhelmed.  We need a number of things to support being with suffering especially compassion, courage, nervous system regulation and a sense of safety in the body.  The being with what’s present and listening to the body often holds much wisdom, this can guide us towards what’s helpful.

Step 4 is letting go of what does not serve us.  This is not always an easy process and can take some time, it’s not necessarily a one off in the moment thing, nor a do one practice and we have magically let go of something, although sometimes it can be like this (usually when there has been prior work with something).  Letting go can be related to a variety of things including worry, self-criticism, impatience, unhelpful beliefs, unsupportive/unhealthy habits and excess tension in the body.  Things that support letting go include the wisdom from within the letting be step, embodied movement, other somatic and embodiment practices, breath practices, compassion practices, compassionate phrases/mantras, meditations, visualisations, and other things like journalling.  As well as needing some nervous system regulation to be with and let go of what does not serve us the process of letting go usually creates more nervous system regulation.  We can also purposely use practices to support regulation as part of letting go which can support the process.

Step 5 is letting in what supports our health & wellbeing and being able to thrive.  Letting in what’s nurturing or supportive can include many things, for example: noticing a sense of ease, spaciousness, or freedom from letting go of tension in the body, or through connecting to a slow soft smooth breath; noticing a sense of being cared for/loved; recalling a sense of being appreciated; noticing kindness and being kind to others; connecting to a sense of what you can do being enough; and moments of joy.  In this step we aim to take in the nurturing moments as they happen and/or recall them, letting them soak in and noticing how this impacts us, for example a change in breathing or nervous system state.  This is what Dr Rick Hanson calls ‘Taking in the good.’  One of the things you can do here is consider what you would like to invite more of into your life, for example more connection, more kindness, or more strength.  We can choose to embody what’s helpful here, for example self-compassion, a gentle strength, a sense of ease, or feeling cared for.  With regular practice of letting in what’s nurturing and supportive, letting in the ‘good’, it changes our whole being.  It impacts our physiology, how we relate to ourselves, others and the world and we are training our brain to take in what’s helpful, positive and nurturing.  This supports our health and wellbeing, whilst not pushing things away or ignoring them (the noticing and allowing steps) – there’s much wisdom held within these steps.  This letting in step could also including letting in the changes that with repetition become helpful habits.

This 5 steps mindful compassion based stress awareness and management model is really about connecting to the body, awareness, compassion, being with, letting go and letting in/bringing in what’s helpful/supportive/positive.  Compassionate awareness is foundational to this, and I think in many things if not in all things.  If we pay attention to what’s present with self-criticism, blame, or frustration it increases the stress, one of many reasons why compassion and awareness are like two wings of a bird, we need both to fly.  The model isn’t 1-5 steps that we rigidity stick to, we move back and forth between different stages, there’s a flow and flexibility within it.  For example, we might be working with letting go and then go back to noticing and letting be before going back to letting go again, or we might be working with letting in and go back to awareness and noticing and even more letting go, and there might not be a clear distinction between the steps always.

As mentioned at the start of this blog there are various lifestyle factors which support optimising our health and wellbeing and stress management.  Developing helpful habits by focusing one habit and one step at a time can be a helpful starting point, over time habits become a way of being.  You could also use this model to support developing habits that support health and wellbeing, I could write how but then this blog would be even longer!  Do let me know if you would like a blog with some tips for this.

If you would like to learn more about these steps in relation to the frame of compassion and compassionate mind training check out the ‘Compassion Focused Approach to Stress Management’ blog which I wrote for Balanced Minds https://balancedminds.com/a-compassion-focused-approach-to-stress-management/

Letting be, letting go and letting in has been a practice for me for some time, it will always be ongoing as part of a way of living and being, and I use it in my work.  I’m not sure if I developed this practice fully myself or if it’s something I picked up and from Dr Ricki Hanson’s work and modified in my own way based on all my learning and personal practices.  I always acknowledge other people’s work and where I get ideas from, in this instance I’m unclear if one of Dr Rick Hanson’s books or attending one of his workshops inspired this model and my work with ‘Let Be, Let Go, Let In’ so I’m mentioning it in case it did.

What do you think? Could this be a helpful model/practice for you for you? Maybe something like this is a practice, or part of a way of being for you already.

 

 

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Managing Pain and Fatigue Over the Festive Period https://unityphysio.co.uk/managing-pain-and-fatigue-over-the-festive-period/ Sat, 30 Nov 2024 11:16:25 +0000 https://unityphysio.co.uk/?p=5230 The festive period can be a wonderful time and a difficult one too for a variety of reasons for some people, including for people managing health conditions associated with persistent pain and fatigue.  These health conditions include: persistent pain, fibromyalgia, ME/CFS, long covid and PoTS.  If you live with one of these conditions, or another, …

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The festive period can be a wonderful time and a difficult one too for a variety of reasons for some people, including for people managing health conditions associated with persistent pain and fatigue.  These health conditions include: persistent pain, fibromyalgia, ME/CFS, long covid and PoTS.  If you live with one of these conditions, or another, you may find Christmas challenging or you may sail though it, many don’t.  I’m hoping there will be some information and tips in this blog that will help make the festive period easier to manage for people who are living with pain & fatigue.  As we move into the blog remember even a little change can make a big difference.

The festive period commonly brings with it a lot of stress, a variety of feelings and emotions, decreased routine and lack of sleep and other things.  These are are things that can turn up the dial on pain and fatigue.  Strategies/tools/practices that help to manage pain & fatigue in general, to manage stress and regulate our nervous system can be helpful.  Practices/tools that can support stress management and nervous system regulation include:

  • Breath practices
  • Mindfulness & Meditation
  • Self-compassion practices
  • Being mindful of our language & reframing it (watch out for the ‘shoulds’, more on this a little later)
  • Gentle yoga or other mindful movement practices
  • Somatic practices
  • Time connecting with nature

Commonly over the festive periods routines get thrown out of the window, people try and fit way more in than usual and more than they have capacity for, this is another reason symptoms increase.  There are different contributors to this including feeling pressure to do things a certain way, to do more & make everything ‘perfect ‘ at Christmas.   There’s no such thing as a perfect Christmas or a perfect anything for that matter, one of my wise sisters once said to me ‘it’s the imperfections that make us perfect.’  Christmas has become very over commercialised and there is quite a lot of unhelpful messaging that can make people feel they aren’t good enough unless the Christmas they have matches all the adverts and social media posts.  It can be helpful to remember that it’s only one day of the year and we can choose what we want to do on that day, it doesn’t have to be a certain way.

When managing any condition associated with pain and fatigue there needs to be flexible routine and pacing of activities.  By flexible routine I mean doing the things that support us each day though not in a fixed or prescriptive way.  For example, maintaining a sleep routine, eating food that supports health & wellbeing, pacing activities, using breath practices and other practices to support nervous system regulation, maintaining our boundaries, connecting with others and nature, and used in a way that meets what’s needed each day.

Sticking to your daily routine as best you can in terms of using the resources/practices that support you in managing the condition you’re living with is important, as well as setting some compassionate boundaries over the festive period.  Creating a flexible plan each day, prioritising and planning what you need and want to do, considering what’s realistic, what supports you, what’s meaningful to you, and consideration of what’s in the week ahead can all help with pain and fatigue management at anytime of year and is especially important with events like Christmas.

It can be helpful to explore our beliefs, expectations & our language, for example, noticing when we are we telling ourselves that we must do something, that we have to do something, that we should do more/should do something a certain way.  It’s quite likely that if you tend to overdo things that this language is appearing quite a bit, commonly there are a lot of shoulds (this comes from our threat system).  When you catch this language ask yourself where these come from & explore reframing the language.  For example, maybe reframing something from I have to do ‘x’ to I get to do ‘x’ and I’m going to ask for some help to make it easier.  Are your beliefs about Christmas supportive of your wellbeing & values?  It’s not always easy to reframe unsupportive beliefs, expectations and language sometimes support is needed to do this, especially when there is a history of trauma.

 

It’s important to know your toolbox of resources, knowing your resources and nervous system well can help you to choose which tools/practices are supportive each day, as well as bringing in additional practices to support you over the festive period as needed. It’s helpful to know what your energy nurturers are, what is restful for you and what regulates your nervous system so that these things can be included each day.  We all need rest and when living with a long-term health condition we need extra rest and more so if experiencing an increase in symptoms (often referred to as a flare-up).  The winter time is also the time we need more rest and the busyness that has now become a ‘norm’ of Christmas pulls us out of our natural rhythm with nature and our time for rest and restoration.

 

Things I see as foundational, are using mindfulness, self-compassion & listening to your body’s wisdom to guide management of pain & fatigue.  Mindfulness simply means being aware of the present moment, or being aware of our experience as we our experiencing it.  If we aren’t aware of what’s happening and how we are then how can we take helpful action?  The way in which we pay attention matters too, it is important that we are aiming to be compassionate and non-judgemental.  Turning a loving awareness towards ourselves is most supportive and it takes ongoing practice.  Being mindful of what’s present in our body in a compassionate way means that we can hear our body’s wisdom and we can use this to guide our choices.

Here is a summary of tips (there are more than I have written about above, the blog would have got rather long if I wrote a bit about each tip!):

  • Have a flexible daily plan
  • Have a flare up plan (what supports settling systems down)
  • Pace things in a way that supports you (5P’s to remember planning, prioritising, play & purpose, problems solving.  My blog on pacing for pain is linked at the end of this blog)
  • Take regular rest breaks
  • Check-in with your body regularly
  • Listen to your body’s wisdom
  • Practice self-compassion
  • Be kind to yourself
  • Remind yourself what you can do is enough
  • Include what’s meaningful each day
  • Connect to a sense of playfulness
  • Set compassionate boundaries (it’s ok to say no)
  • Communicate what’s possible
  • Ask for help when needed (asking for help is a strength not a weakness)
  • Use daily practices that support you
  • Use nervous system regulation practices (for example breath practices, meditation, mindfulness, yoga, somatic & embodiment practices, self-compassion practices, singing/humming)
  • Prioritise sleep, rest & restoration
  • Manage stress
  • Communicate with family & friends
  • Reach out for support
  • Connect with others & nature
  • Spend a little time outdoors each day if you can, or look out of the window & see what you can notice
  • Remind yourself Christmas doesn’t have to look or be a certain way
  • Explore beliefs & expectations, reframe them if it’s helpful & possible
  • Watch out for ‘I should…’, ‘I have to…’, ‘I must…’
  • Connect to a sense of joy, wonder, vitality and other nurturing feelings each day

The tips with this post can be helpful for us all and are especially important when living with persistent pain & other conditions.  You don’t need to do them all, trying to change too much at once often has the opposite impact, instead pick one or a few things that feel helpful for you and take action on them.  Maybe you have some tips you would add, I would love to hear them if you do.

It’s important for us all to remember there is no such things as a perfect Christmas & whatever we choose to do is ok and whatever we can do is enough.

Here’s the link to the pacing for persistent pain blog mentioned in this blog (a lot of what is in the blog applies to ME/CFS and long covid too, though pacing for these is slightly different): https://unityphysio.co.uk/what-is-pacing-how-can-it-help-with-persistent-chronic-pain/

 

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Healing Within Connectedness & Love (part two) https://unityphysio.co.uk/healing-within-connectedness-love-part-two/ Fri, 11 Aug 2023 12:45:13 +0000 https://unityphysio.co.uk/?p=4351 This is part two of the healing within connectedness & love blog, in this blog we will look briefly at the importance of aligning mind, body & heart, along with connectedness in healing, especially living from the heart, connected to our true selves/true nature, other people, love and nature.  You can find part one of …

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This is part two of the healing within connectedness & love blog, in this blog we will look briefly at the importance of aligning mind, body & heart, along with connectedness in healing, especially living from the heart, connected to our true selves/true nature, other people, love and nature.  You can find part one of the blog here: https://unityphysio.co.uk/healing-within-connectedness-love-part-one/

 

Aligning mind, body & heart

 

Terms like aligning mind, body and heart can seem a bit abstract so I’m going to define this in the way I see it before we explore connectedness more.  To me aligning mind, body and heart means living in a loving and embodied way aligned with our purpose and what’s meaningful, living from a place of love, compassion & connectedness.  By living in a loving and embodied way I mean noticing how, for example, our thoughts and feelings, are showing up in the body in a compassionate and non-judgemental way.  Part of healing is awakening our senses and being able to fully be in the present moment in an embodied and loving way.  We can’t do this if we are stuck in hyperarousal or hypoarousal, where we are stuck in our heads or rushing around all the time, disconnected from ourselves and the world around us, and not feeling safe/settled and secure.  Aligning body, mind and heart helps us regulate our nervous system, awaken to a deeper way of being and reconnect to the connectedness of everything.

Living in an embodied and open hearted way can also help us see that the obstacles and challenges that appear as part of life can help us awaken and grow.  We can ask questions that support with this like how can this help me grow? How can this help me serve myself and others?  How might this help serve my heartfelt intentions or aspirations?  Sometimes things are overwhelming, these times we won’t know the answers to these questions and we will struggle to connect to our bodies, these times we may need to find a suitable therapist to support us.

 

Love & connectedness in healing

 

One of the things that is really important in healing is that our suffering is witnessed and acknowledged in a compassionate and non-judgemental way.  Suffering that is not witnessed and acknowledged, or done so in a critical way, often causes more trauma.   Love, compassion & connection are needed here because when we aren’t fully present and connected we can’t truly notice our suffering, or that of another, and without love and compassion there is judgement and criticism.

Acceptance is important in healing, it isn’t a one off thing, instead it’s ongoing and it can be said to be a moment by moment process.   Acceptance isn’t passive, it doesn’t mean putting up with something, or that things won’t change (things are always changing right down to each moment).  A great strength or courage is needed to be able to let go and trust in our inner wisdom and the process.  With curiosity, openness, courage and a compassionate loving presence (a heartfelt presence) we can notice and allow what’s present in the moment to be exactly as it is, even if it’s not how we would ideally choose it to be.  Being present with love & compassion helps us accept and allow what’s present to be without, for example, self-blame or self-criticism, and when these do appear they can be met with compassion and love too.   Allowing what’s present to be needs a sense of safety, or feeling safe enough in the present moment.  This means that we need the nervous system to be balanced or close to balance (where we are within our window of tolerance/ventral vagal system).

From a place of noticing what’s present in the body we can increase our understanding, connect to our inner wisdom and discern what’s supportive for us.  Any action comes from our inner wisdom rather than from a threat based reaction, for example a pushing away, trying to get rid of something, or avoiding.  It’s important for us to stop over controlling and resisting, this is part of being in a regulated nervous system (resistance & over control are part of our threat system and protection mechanisms), as it calms our nervous system and allows new possibilities to begin to surface.  Allowing what’s present to be with an acceptance or openness is a place where fear softens and we can start to see what’s resting underneath.  Holding whatever is present, in love compassion isn’t always easy and this is part of the practice and the healing.  Things can reappear that we thought we had dealt with once, that we had healed, new layers surface for healing, here again we practice acceptance and compassion.

We need trust to allow the healing process to unfold in its own time without wanting it to be a certain way or create a certain outcome, without pushing or resisting, easier said than done I know (that’s part of the practice too).  We naturally push away or resist what causes suffering and grasp what creates joy and the things we want more of.  Part of suffering is in the pushing away and grasping, we can learn to allow things to flow through (an ever ongoing practice).  We can, for example, notice that pain is present and allow it to be in the background as best we can, rather than trying to get rid of it and getting frustrated, angry or self-critical when nothing works.  This doesn’t mean we don’t take action to try and alleviate the suffering, instead it comes from a different place and we take wise action.  This may be no action sometimes, or something simple like after noticing what’s present and allowing it to be, offering ourselves some soothing words or soothing touch (this could be part of Tara Brach’s R.A.I.N practice or Kritsin Neff’s self-compassion break, for example).  We also need to learn to hold the outcome lightly, we cannot control this as there are many variable (some we don’t see) we can influence the outcome and control how we relate to it.

Often when we are suffering we lose trust in ourselves, I have seen this time and time again working with people with persistent pain, other long-term conditions and felt it myself.  The decreased trust, or the loss of trust, brings an opportunity to connect more deeply to it and develop more of a kind of unshakeable trust.  Part of trust is trusting that we have the skills, knowledge, resources/practices to manage, or if we don’t then believing that with support we can develop them.  Learning to trust the healing process is important and it means we need to trust in uncertainty too.  Trusting in uncertainty isn’t easy, it’s important because so much is uncertain in life, this means we need to let go of over control.  Being safely grounded in compassion and love links with trust in holding us steady enough within the uncertainty, within what feels like a vulnerable place.

Reconnecting to our inner wisdom is so important in healing, it supports and guides us.  Terms like inner wisdom and our true nature or essence, can seem a bit abstract, they aren’t tangible things we can see.  Our inner wisdom and true nature both hold love & compassion and connecting to them is important in healing.  Connecting to our inner wisdom through our body guides us in many ways, for example it can guide us when to explore something to deepen understanding and when to allow something to be in the background for the time being.  Sometimes we need help to access our inner wisdom especially if there is unprocessed trauma, the light of compassion and love can be hidden under layers.

Feeling the connectedness to love, nature and the wider whole is also important in healing and our overall wellbeing.  Research is showing us that it is not necessarily the amount of time that we spend in nature that is significant for our wellbeing, except in terms of physical wellbeing, there needs to be a sense of connectedness too (physical wellbeing needs this too, so again it’s not just the time in nature that’s important).  Sometimes we have disconnected from the interconnectedness of nature, reconnecting to this is part of our healing and it’s needed for natures healing.  Nature’s wisdom combines with our inner wisdom and can guide us when we listen.  If we haven’t lost the connection to the connectedness with nature then the sense of connectedness with this tends to deepen as part of healing.  Nature is part of us and we are part of nature, our wellbeing and natures wellbeing are inextricably interlinked, connecting to this helps our healing and also the healing that nature is desperately calling out for.

The interconnectedness with nature and something bigger than us may resonate with you or it may not, either way is ok.  If these things are of interest one of the books that I would recommend is called ‘Reconnection: Fixing Our Broken Relationship With Nature’ by Miles Richardson.

 

Common Humanity & Healing

 

As human beings we all experience joys and sorrows, love and loss, easier times and tough times, suffering and healing.  This is the common humanity we all share, we share many things as part of being human and connecting to this is important in healing.  Connection to others is important in healing, we are social animals.  We self-regulate and we co-regulate, our nervous system talks to other nervous systems.

Adapting to and processing many losses is part of being human and is often part of healing too  This can be for many reason, for example, from the multiple losses related to living with a chronic health condition, from life being different from the way you wished it to be, and/or from the loss of a loved one.  There isn’t a right or wrong way to grieve.  I wrote a grief and loss in persistent pain & other long term health conditions blog which you can find this here:

Part one https://unityphysio.co.uk/grief-loss-in-persistent-pain-other-health-conditions-part-one/

Part two https://unityphysio.co.uk/grief-loss-in-persistent-pain-other-health-conditions-part-two/

It is the tough times that we learn the most from and these times that we need a toolbox of practices to draw on, these can also be referred to as strategies or resources.  The tough times strengthen our heart and allow our heart to open more fully, to be present with love, compassion and courage, connect to the depth of our strength and to connect more deeply to the connectedness of everything with a sense of spaciousness.  We cannot heal until we learn what supports our nervous system regulation and have some resources/practices to support this and healing, we create more resources along our healing journey too.

 

What supports healing?

 

There are many things that can support us each day, that can become part of a way of being and part of healing, including: embodied self-awareness practices (awareness in the body), meditation, mindfulness, breath practices, self-compassion, yoga, exercise and movement, walking, time in nature, journaling, distraction (sometimes this is needed, for example when things are over whelming) and many more things.

When I had a really tough couple of years due to some health conditions I leaned deeply into my yoga and compassion practices and drew on many other resources that I had, my gratitude for these deepened and I developed many more resources through this time too.  I also reached out for additional support, remember we can’t heal on our own.

What practices and resources/strategies do you use to support you day to day?

 

Summary

 

To heal we need many things including: to restore balance and retrain our nervous system, a sense of safety and trust, an embodied loving awareness, acceptance, a variety of resources/practices along with a daily commitment to practice, belongingness, support of others, connection and connectedness, and of course compassion and love.  Healing takes time and a toolbox of strategies and practices, it’s not one thing that helps us heal it’s many things.  We can’t heal on our own, we need the co-regulation and support of others which can take many forms.  Sometimes support needs to be in the form of a therapist, other times it could be a coach or mentor, friends, or a wider community group that we are part of.

As we heal the confusion that we had in our suffering evolves into clarity and we awaken a little more to our true selves and the interconnectedness in everything too.  There are times that we think we have healed and everything is going smoothly and then something happens that opens up new layers that are ready to be healed.   Healing is something I have come to see as being ongoing, maybe you can relate to this too.  I don’t think there is a destination unless it is to return to our true selves and wholeness, to the alignment of mind body and heart and live from this place, and return again and again.  Each time there is a challenge or an obstacle it gives us an opportunity to grow and connect to our true selves, our inner wisdom, and more deeply to the connectedness within and around us.

We all already have what’s needed for healing within us, to access and nurture this we need to be able to safely connect to our bodies and we often need to change how we are relating to ourselves, from being critical, for example, to being more compassionate.  Sometimes we need help from a psychologist, or another psychological clinician to do this, for example when there is unresolved or unprocessed trauma.  We all have within us a core essence of compassion and love, this light never goes out, sometimes it’s under layers and we need help to be able to start to see it, and the more we connect to this place the more brightly it shines.

Healing has many aspects and perhaps we could see it as being rooted in connectedness and love, and aligning mind, body and heart.  I have come to understand that our healing rests within the love that is within and around us all and the connection to the interconnectedness of everything.  Healing is a place where enougness, okness, compassion, love, trust and freedom all rest.  Connecting to the wisdom of our body, heart, inner trust, compassion and love over and over again helps us to heal & develop an unshakeable inner core, or at least a less shakeable one.  The inner wisdom that is within us all, our core of love and compassion, is a place that we can come to know more deeply with time and once we have an embodied knowing (a felt sense in our body) we can return again and again to our true selves and a balanced state (our ventral vagal system/window of tolerance) that supports healing.  As we heal we can live more fully in an open hearted presence, developing a new way to be, relating to ourselves in a more loving and compassionate way and extending this love and compassion to others and the world around us.

To finish this blog I’m sharing a poem that I wrote called ‘Healing Within’:

Many things were unknown

Couldn’t be seen

In the darkness there was always some light

Flickering gently

Leading the way

Slowly, step by step

Pauses scattered through

 

Compassionate awareness enveloping

Body wisdom guiding to explore

What’s resting inside, to be seen, accepted and loved

Slowly, never to be rushed

 

Each footstep exploring

Heart trusting

A loving presence guiding

Exploring and listening

Natures wisdom shining

Deepening a knowing

Harmony evolving

 

Learning a new way to be

Compassion, love and trust united

Deeply embedded within

Shining brightly

Holding the steadiness

Resting in aliveness

Connected to the unity

Being & healing

 

You may also like to check out the poem I wrote called The Body Remembers The Trust

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=2pgR3COJLPk

 

I would love to hear your thoughts on healing and this blog, do drop me an email if you would like to (info@unityphysio.co.uk) or share some thoughts in the comments on social media where I’ve shared this blog.

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Healing Within Connectedness & Love (part one) https://unityphysio.co.uk/healing-within-connectedness-love-part-one/ Fri, 11 Aug 2023 11:57:27 +0000 https://unityphysio.co.uk/?p=4346 I’ve been pondering healing and thought that I would sharing some of my musings around this and the importance of connectedness as part of healing, in particular to our heart, to love, nature and to something bigger than us.  Part one of this blog will explore what healing means and part two will touch on the …

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I’ve been pondering healing and thought that I would sharing some of my musings around this and the importance of connectedness as part of healing, in particular to our heart, to love, nature and to something bigger than us.  Part one of this blog will explore what healing means and part two will touch on the importance of living in a heart based way, connectedness and reconnecting to the interconnectedness of everything as part of healing.

I’ve especially been considering healing in relation to trauma, persistent pain, ME/CFS, long covid, PoTS and other long-term conditions, which is probably because these are the areas I work within and have lived experience of some too.   Many people are healing from trauma and/or a long-term health conditions in our modern world.  Last week I read in a new report by The Health Foundation it has suggested that 9.1 million people in England are expected to live with a major illness by 2040 and that a significant proportion of this will be related to certain conditions, including anxiety, depression, chronic pain and diabetes.   In my opinion there are many factors that need consideration here including healing and the innate connectedness that we need to reconnect to and nurture.

 

What does healing mean?

 

There is no agreed definition of healing, healing in acute terms means repairing damaged tissues, or fixing an injury, for example.  Things get complex when it’s not a simple acute injury and there isn’t a specific time frame to heal or repair the wound/injury.  When there are, for example, layers of trauma, or many symptoms from fibromyalgia, or someone is living with persistent pain healing becomes trickier to define.

Before reading on I invite you to consider what healing means to you?

I think we could say that healing is always an individual experience that involves reducing or transforming suffering.   However, if we were to say healing is only a change in suffering this would be a simplistic view, especially as suffering is complex and it is always changing, everything is always changing, and because healing is about more than the suffering or struggle that is part of the picture.

Another thing to consider with what healing means is that it may or may not mean full resolution of pain, anxiety, or other symptoms.  Often people have shared with me themes around alignment with their heart and what’s meaningful, connectedness and wholeness as part of what healing means to them, and these are things I can relate to from my own healing journey too.   Some people may say that not feeling whole implies that something is broken and needs fixing.  I don’t see it this way and instead see it as a disconnection from our true selves, disconnection from nature and a disconnection from the wider whole/universe (there are different terms for this, it can essentially be seen as something bigger than ourselves).  Although we may at times feel broken we never really are, our true self is like the sky in that it is always there and can never be broken and the weathers come and go.

A journey to wholeness is something I see as a heart based connection, a connection to meaning and purpose, to a sense of belonging, and to the love, trust and compassion that’s within us all.  We could maybe say that healing is a coming home to ourselves, reconnecting to our inner wisdom and connecting to the interconnectedness of everything.  I would say healing is also an alignment of mind, body and heart, a place where we can live fully connected from an open hearted presence with a gentle strength and love.  We will explore this a little more in part two of the blog.

I think that it is helpful to consider what nervous system regulation means in the context of healing, especially because we can’t heal with a nervous system that is dysregulated too often/too much.

 

What is nervous system regulation?

 

Nervous system regulation includes the whole nervous system and is often discussed in terms of the autonomic nervous system.  Everyone’s nervous system dysregulates many times a day and then re-regulates, the problems come when the nervous system is dysregulating too often or too much relative to the context and not re-regulating well.  A well regulated nervous systems helps us to feel safe or safe enough to be fully present and to engage with others and the world in general, and it helps all of our systems to function optimally.

There isn’t an agreed definition of nervous system regulation, this is one that I created for my Creating A Healing Path workshop series:

‘Nervous system regulation can be thought of as when our nervous system is flexibly able to move between different states in response to stressors & the level of arousal matches the context/what you are required to do.  It is where it is working in a balanced way that supports optimal function & healing.’

A quick summary of the autonomic nervous system (ANS) could be helpful here.  The ANS unconsciously controls and regulates our organs and unconscious body functions, including heart rate, breathing (which we also have conscious control over), blood pressure, and temperature.  It is split into two branches, the sympathetic nervous system (SNS), fight or flight, and the parasympathetic nervous system (PNS), rest and digest.  These work together to maintain a state of balance in the body (homeostasis) and we need both branches of the ANS, neither is good or bad.  The levels of activation of the SNS and PNS are always fluctuating, our central nervous system CNS) and autonomic nervous system are constantly adjusting, along with all other systems, to try and maintain homeostasis.  Our ANS and the CNS (mainly the amygdala and hypothalamus in the limbic system in the brain) are constantly monitoring for threat/danger or safety.  The ANS and CNS are constantly surveying our internal environment (information from all systems), along with our immediate and wider external environment, including how the interactions with others feel.  Our nervous system takes a better safe than sorry approach and our previous experiences and modern society mean it is often dysregulated by things that aren’t actual threats.  Once the threat, or potential threat, has gone we need to be able to return to regulation to function optimally and feel safe and settled again.  When this doesn’t happen automatically or takes sometime we can assist this process and there are many ways in which we can do this, this is part of healing.

It is important to mention that changes in ANS activation are associated with different chemical messengers which of course impact all of our systems.  Our thoughts feelings and emotions are also in themselves associated with different chemical messengers, they are part of our biology too.

There are different models that can help us to understand the ANS and nervous system regulation, the ones I use most often are Dan Siegel’s window of tolerance and Stephen Porge’s polyvagal theory, combined with the 3 circles model by Paul Gilbert (part of Compassion Focused Therapy).  For this blog I’m going to touch on the window of tolerance model and polyvagal theory.

The window of tolerance model was developed by Dan Siegel to describe the optimal level of arousal, it has three parts:

  • Hyperarousal (too much SNS – fight or flight)
  • Window of tolerance – optimal zone of arousal (balanced ANS)
  • Hypoarousal (not enough SNS & PNS without the vagal brake)

In this model a dysregulated nervous system is one that is too often, or too much for the context, in hyperarousal or hypoarousal, and/or takes longer to regulate from these states back to regulation, and sometimes gets stuck for a while in one of these threat/protection based states.  When the nervous system is dysregulated in the direction of hyperarousal a variety of things associated with this can be present including: fear, panic, initial freeze (deer in headlights) emotional overwhelm, anxiety, irritability, anger, over-activity, lack of clarity, worry, gut issues, increased muscle tension, pain, insomnia, a tired and wired feeling.  When the nervous system is dysregulated in the direction of hypoarousal a variety of things associated with this can be present including: disconnection, dissociation, low mood, depression, decreased muscle tone, shame, guilt, feeling numb, fatigue, shut down.

(infographic by Dr Sarah Davies, the link to the blog that this is in is below)

Through the lens of the polyvagal theory by Stephen Porges we see the ANS protection responses as:

  • SNS (fight or flight, includes the initial freeze response)
  • Shut down or collapse (PNS minus vagal brake, termed dorsal vagal in this model)

Porges suggests that there are three pathways in the ANS, being the sympathetic nervous system (SNS) (mobilised/activated, protect/survival mode, unsafe), the ventral vagal circuit (safe, regulated, sympathetic and parasympathetic activity balanced with the vagal brake, and able to be socially engaged) and the dorsal vagal circuit (unsafe, protect/survival mode, shut down).   These three systems/states are also included on the above infographic).  The SNS part is where there is increased SNS activation (hyperarousal in window of tolerance).  The initial freeze response (deer in headlight type response) is SNS dominant, this is where we freeze whilst a decision is automatically made as to whether we can fight or flee, if neither are possible and this response continues eventually the SNS is overwhelmed by the PNS (we lose the ventral vagal regulation, the vagal brake – the rest and digest part of the PNS).  Here we go into a primitive survival response of shutdown or collapse, this is termed dorsal vagal in this model (it’s where there is increased hypoarousal in the window of tolerance model).  The ventral vagal system is where we are said to be safely activated, in other words the SNS is balanced by the PNS with the vagal brake.  Here all systems can function optimally, the ANS is in balance, the limbic system in the brain is settled and the frontal lobe is online.  When we are in the ventral vagal system we feel safe and secure, this supports social connection and full engagement in a heartfelt presence with ourselves and the world.

The wider our window of tolerance, the more frequently we can be in the ventral vagal system and the more easily we can return to this place again and again.  This helps systems function optimally and we can, for example, find ease within challenges.  Being in our ventral vagal system or window of tolerance helps create the conditions that support healing.  Also with a wider window of tolerance we can more often be in a full heart felt presence and have a greater tolerance to be with our own and others suffering, along with being able to access the wisdom to discern what may be helpful in alleviating or decreasing the suffering.

There is a lot of information on the window of tolerance model and polyvagal theory available, like this blog on the window of tolerance model:

https://www.drsarahdavies.com/post/what-is-window-of-tolerance-emotional-regulation-model-explained

You can find a free beginners guide to polyvagal theory on Deb Dana’s website here:

https://www.rhythmofregulation.com/resources

Considering nervous system regulation alone would be a reductionist way of looking at things, it needs to be considered as part of the whole picture.  This includes considering all systems, what is happening in our body, the thoughts and memories that are present, our behaviour, previous experiences, essentially the whole of our experience and the connectedness of everything.

Summary

 

Healing doesn’t have an agreed definition except in acute injury.  Healing involves changing or transforming suffering and creates a new way of being through reconnection to our true self and living aligned with our mind, body and heart.

When our nervous system is not well regulated, we don’t feel safe, we can’t see the bigger picture and are disconnected from ourselves, others and the wider whole, and we can’t heal from this place.  It is important we remember that we don’t control any of our nervous systems threat/protection responses (hyperarousal/hypoarousal), they are quickly automatically activated when protection is deemed as needed.  When we are within our window of tolerance or ventral vagal system enough (a regulated and balanced nervous system state) we are safely able to fully connect to ourselves and others, have a more expansive view, and conditions are optimised for healing.  A healing state is one that rests in safety and connection, a place where strength & gentleness are balanced, a place where the seeds of change can be planted, begin to grow and later flourish and these are all part of having a well-balanced regulated nervous system.

Perhaps we could see healing as a return to wholeness, or an alignment of mind, body & heart.  An alignment and wholeness that means that we can live a life full of meaning, with a sense of purpose, fully connected to ourselves, others & to something bigger than ourselves (the wider whole) in an open hearted and grounded way.  These will be explored a little in  part two of this blog.

What do you think, does this way of seeing healing resonate with you?

Link to part two of the blog https://unityphysio.co.uk/healing-within-connectedness-love-part-two/

(brain in hands image with this blog is from Shutterstock by Sergey Nivens, all others are owned by Ann Parkinson at Unity Physiotherapy & Wellbeing)

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How Can Physiotherapy Help With PoTS? https://unityphysio.co.uk/how-can-physiotherapy-help-with-pots/ Sat, 15 Jul 2023 10:19:48 +0000 https://unityphysio.co.uk/?p=4018 Physiotherapy can be helpful for people with PoTS (postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome), it is recommended to be with a physiotherapist that has a specialism or special interest in PoTS.  Before we look at how physiotherapy can help let’s look at what PoTS is. What is PoTS?   Postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome (PoTS) is a form …

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Physiotherapy can be helpful for people with PoTS (postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome), it is recommended to be with a physiotherapist that has a specialism or special interest in PoTS.  Before we look at how physiotherapy can help let’s look at what PoTS is.

What is PoTS?

 

Postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome (PoTS) is a form of dysautonomia (autonomic dysfunction) and is characterised by an abnormal increase in heart rate within 10 minutes of sitting from laying down or with standing, this is referred to as orthostatic intolerance.  For people with PoTS upright posture (sitting or standing) is limited to varying degrees.  Alongside the main diagnosis of PoTS, which we could call classic PoTS, there are different subtypes: neuropathic PoTS, hypovolaemic PoTS & hyperadrenergic PoTS.

PoTS diagnostic criteria is a sustained increased in heart rate (HR) for over 3 months of 30bpm within 10 minutes of standing in adults, or reaches 120bpm or more in this time, and in children an increase of at least 40bpm.  A tilt table test is used for diagnosis and/or the active stand test or NASA lean test.  It is also important that other conditions are ruled out and tests should include blood tests and an ECG.  If people don’t meet the diagnostic criteria and other things have been ruled out they most likely have orthostatic intolerance (which is one end of the PoTS spectrum before it reaches a level classed as PoTS).

There are a whole range of associated symptoms including:

  • Increased heart rate
  • Alteration in blood pressure
  • Palpitations
  • Light headedness/dizziness
  • Shortness of breath
  • Chest pain
  • Fatigue
  • Brain fog
  • Sweating
  • Shakiness or tremulousness
  • Fainting/blackouts (in a fairly low percentage of people)
  • Sleep issues
  • Headaches/migraines
  • Anxiety
  • Nausea
  • Gut & bladder issues (IBS is common)
  • Visual problems
  • Purple hands and feet (pooling of blood in extremities due to sitting and standing for varying amounts of time)

I would like to highlight that people are often misdiagnosed with anxiety when it’s actually PoTS, PoTS itself creates feelings associated with anxiety & increased sympathetic nervous system (SNS) activation.  Living with PoTS can of course also cause anxiety, or anxiety may be pre-exisiting as well.

Many things can make symptoms worse including excess heat, a big meal or certain foods, decreased fluids or dehydration, hormones, stress, standing up too quickly, not getting enough rest, exercise (doing too much or certain types like HITT – HITT is never a place to start but may be possible with rehab), time of day (generally worse in the morning) and alcohol.

PoTS can occur as a primary problem or secondary (associated with another condition), including: fibromyalgia, ME/CFS, Elhers-Danlos syndrome (EDS), Parkinsons disease, lupus, rheumatoid arthritis, lyme disease & others.  Mast cell activation syndrome (MCAS) can be present as well, it is not clear if this is a primary or secondary issue, there is also a triad of EDS, PoTS & MCAS.  PoTS is also associated with long covid/post covid syndrome and is fairly common with this.  In my experience PoTS rarely exists in isolation.

PoTS is something I screen for as part of an autonomic screen with all the people I work with including those with persistent pain & fibromyalgia.  It’s not widely enough known about and screened for so is not always picked up and can be misdiagnosed as anxiety.  Some level of autonomic dysfunction is common in all the conditions I work with.

There are many things that can cause PoTS or contribute to it, which I am not going to cover in this blog.  You can find more information on PoTS here:

PoTS U.K website: https://www.potsuk.org

Information on the Long Covid Physio: https://longcovid.physio/dysautonomia-pots

 

How Can Physiotherapy Help With PoTS?

 

PoTS often needs to be managed by a multidisciplinary team (with a specialism or good experience in managing the condition).  Ideally a cardiologist with an a specialism or special interest in PoTS, a specialist physiotherapist, an occupational therapist when needed, a psychologist when needed, and a dietician may be needed with dietary adjustments especially if there is MCAS.   Psychological therapy can help in a number of ways, including with managing the distress of living with PoTS and some treatments, like EMDR, can help to regulate the ANS.  Other specialists may need to be involved, for example a sleep specialist.

A specialist physiotherapist can help to reduce symptoms and improve function, this needs to be alongside other factors like medication (when needed), hydration, increased salt (when not contraindicated), diet, compression stockings/garments, stress management & pacing of activities.   Some of the ways in which a physio can help are mentioned below.

Education & lifestyle modification: A physio can help people understand the condition and give advice on the lifestyle changes that help with management, along with supporting exploration of these.  There are a variety of lifestyle factors that can help, some of the main ones are mentioned above.

A tailored exercise programme:  A specialist physiotherapist can tailor an exercise programme, although this isn’t a place to start when PoTS is severe and great care is needed when there is PEM.  It is crucial that PEM is screened for as it completely changes how things are done.  Depending on severity of PoTS and other factors, including other conditions and exercise tolerance, recumbent exercises may be the starting point.  Exercise has been shown to be helpful in the management of PoTS, any exercise programme needs to bear in mind many factors.  To begin with it needs to be of a low intensity and progressed very slowly and it needs to be combined with other factors, including regulating & retraining of the ANS.

Pacing:  A physiotherapist can help people explore pacing of activities and different strategies that help with managing functional activities.  Pacing is not a set or fixed way of doing things, there isn’t a right or wrong, it needs to be individualised and it’s something we need to hold lightly otherwise we step into over control which ramps up the threat system and impacts our flexibility in interacting with life.  Pacing needs to be flexible and come from a foundation of compassionate awareness and understanding in my opinion.  People understanding their baselines for activities and what rest is for them is part of pacing, for people with PoTS rest may need to be laying down.

Breathing exercises:  Some people have a breathing pattern disorder alongside PoTS due to the prolonged over activation of the sympathetic nervous system, increased heart rate & shortness of breath (a breathing pattern disorder also contributes to these symptoms, and other reasons, it becomes a bit of a vicious cycle).  A physio can assess for this and give exercises to help retrain normal breathing and regulate the ANS, if needed people can be referred onto a respiratory specialist physiotherapist.

Management of multiple conditions:  People may well have other issues alongside PoTS including persistent/chronic pain, a specialist physiotherapist can tailor things bearing in mind the other conditions someone is living with as well as PoTS.  People may also have ME/CFS or long covid, I have an interest in both of these conditions along with PoTS, a graded exercise programme is not recommended with ME/CFS and this would also apply to long covid when PEM is present.  I have worked many years as a persistent pain specialist physio & so am well placed to help with this.

Regulating & retraining the autonomic nervous system:  This is important with PoTS, a physiotherapist can help people explore what helps them with nervous system regulation and retraining.  This like other aspects of care needs to be individualised, there is not a set guide and instead more of a flexible framework.  Part of this includes using measures like monitoring heart rate and heart rate variability (HRV), these are also helpful as part of guiding exercise progression.

Self-Compassion:  This isn’t something that is part of physiotherapy as such, it is however part of my approach to whole person care. Self-compassion can help to regulate the nervous system and the research shows us it helps in many ways (not specific PoTS research) including with decreasing self-criticism, increasing resilience and overall wellbeing.

About Me

 

I work as a Pain & Fatigue Specialist Physiotherapist & Integrative Somatic Therapist.  Alongside working in the specialist area of persistent/chronic pain I also have a special interest in ME/CFS, long covid & PoTS, chronic stress & anxiety.   I also have lived experience of PoTS, ME/CFS, persistent pain & anxiety.   All of my offerings are trauma informed and I have a compassionate, integrative, person-centred approach to care.  You can find out more about me by clicking the link below

https://unityphysio.co.uk/about-ann-physiotherapist-in-lincoln/

I can work with anyone in the UK virtually and locally can offer in person appointments or a combination of remote and in person.  I offer a free 15 minute call for anyone before they decide if they would like to book an appointment.

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